youth leaders are not really leading

How would you feel if you knew that a LEADER in your church was sending your youth emails about the size of people’s (rappers, singer etc.) private areas and how well they are in bed??

There are a lot of people in the world that are familiar with the infamous “Superhead” otherwise known as Karrine Steffans… the Video Vixen. She has a book out titled ‘Confessions of a Video Vixen’ and she now has a second book on shelves, I am unfamiliar with the name. But for those of you that dont know, she has made a not-so-positive name for herself by sleeping with numerous people in the music industry. The purpose of the book was to tell a side of her story that no one had heard. I think that purpose was looked over entirely. Everyone that read the book was in it to hear about who she had slept with and what type of relationship she had with these men. I think that by the time the book became popular, she had also forgotten about her original reason for writing it. But that is not the reason for this post.

About two days ago, I recieved an email that totally blew me away. It was a list of about 40-50 music icons, past & present. Next to each of their names was a rating of big, small, thick, thin, short or fat. Add fuel to the fire… this ‘Superhead’ also remembered to add a detailed description of exactly how they were in bed. Although the email was very graphic, even for me, what pissed me off the most is that a leader of my church sent it to me. Not just any leader… a leader who works directly with YOUTH!! Is there any way to justify that??

I didn’t know what to do really. I was going to address her about the situation simply because I dont prefer to recieve things like that from anybody be it a leader of the church or a friend from school. But in a situation like this I really dont know how I am supposed to react. I am not surprised that this person would send something like that… I can easily tell a hypocrite when I see one. But what I dont understand is how you can even look at yourself after you have sent something like this to a youth in your church that you are supposed to be leading. Am I wrong for being upset about this and should something be said in order to get this type of behavior under control??


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  1. mandythompson said, on August 8, 2007 at 5:08 pm

    dang. that’s disturbing…. i can’t imagine what would make a youth leader think that kind of information would be decent or holy.
    girl…… wow.

  2. Heber Brown, III said, on August 9, 2007 at 5:11 pm

    First, let me say that I think it’s a terrible indictment on our society that people like “Superhead” have a platform to spew this disgusting information while issues like genocide in Darfur, U.S. foreign policy in the Middle East, the court ruling against the victims of Hurricane Katrina, the new slavery (prison industrial complex), the Jena 6, etc. etc. are not given sustained and critical attention by mainstream media outlets.

    In addition, Steffans is a selfish, opportunist who is building a shameful legacy for herself and her family to bear. She continues to prostitute herself in search of profits at the expense of the larger community. Oh how tragic her epitaph will be!: “Here lies the bones of one who made no meaningful contribution to her people or the larger community.” I pray that she considers the folly of her ways before it’s too late.

    Now that I got that out.

    I did receive an email many years ago that contained information that I didn’t think was appropriate. The person knew me and knew what I was about. I invited that person to continue sending me forwards, but not to send me unsavory emails anymore. She never emailed me again. Maybe she felt convicted or embarrassed – I don’t know, but what I did and do know is that living a disciplined life is difficult enough. None of us needs pointless distractions meant to deter us from what God calls us to be.

  3. Tanae said, on August 9, 2007 at 6:02 pm


    Thanks for your comment…

    But what do we do to save youth from this type of behavior portrayed by youth leaders?? Do we nip this little issue in the butt and let these persons who claim to be ‘leaders’ continue to misguide youth in the church??

  4. Heber Brown, III said, on August 9, 2007 at 6:38 pm

    good question. You want to be a youth leader. What do you think?

  5. Tanae said, on August 9, 2007 at 6:42 pm

    I would say to do whatever possible to get these people out of leadership positions. I wouldn’t be able to sleep at night knowing that my kids are being led by persons that are not doing something to steer them in the right direction. I’m not really sure what actions could be taken in order to deal with an issue such as this one as peacefully as possible but my fear is that even once a situation like this one is taken care of, our youth leaders are still leading two seperate lives that will eventually begin to hinder the growth of youth and ministry as a whole.

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